Secrets are Poison but Honesty Will Set You Free

This morning one of my sons sent me a video clip where he was recounting how he found himself being paranoid about an issue at work. He was not in a frame of mind to discuss the issue with anyone; here’s the text of the response I sent him as an audio message.”

"Got your video, thanks for taking the time to tell me about the incident where you saw you were paranoid.

What I’ve made up of a story around that for myself, as well as I think what happened for you, is that secrets are poison. And while we don’t say everything to everybody, we must always be able to talk with somebody about everything. And if we don’t, we end up with paranoia; and so I heartily encourage you to find someone to talk with about everything.

Don’t keep any secrets. They go around and around in our brain and they cause more problems.

You are aware of the problem that my dad had, and there was nobody in the world he could tell that to, and of course that drove him insane. While that’s an extreme example, the lesson is that secrets are poison, quite literally they poison our brain and we must find someone to talk with about everything. Sometimes it’s a man that you have to talk about man things with; sometimes it’s our women that we have to talk about women things, Yes it requires some discretion as to who you talk about what with; but the most important thing is: do not keep anything secret and only to yourself.

Sure, we wait for some time to think about it before you talk about it, but if you find that it’s bothering you, as you said, it's paranoia; it’s a secret, it’s poisoning you; talk with somebody about it.